I put it in the other thread, but only once has that been transcendent for me. Generally when I am tired I feel much less. I say mornings are for my husband and afternoons are for me, once I am really awake and have had calories and caffeine everything feels better.

There is a desperateness to the exhausted sex that can add something for sure but not worth the tradeoff for me in general.

Is quite nice for an isolated dick pic, lol. Also you do look perfect size btw. But isolated pictures of genitals not my thing.

I don’t feel qualified to speak on behalf of womanhood, but would say don’t worry much about being erect, we are looking at the whole body, and just look at it yourself, do you like it? Like if it was a picture of someone else.

Also if you have someone who likes the way you look, let them take pictures, it makes a difference.

In order of preference

BDSM stories (M/f, either perspective but M perspective best)

Other erotica, heterosexual or bisexual ok but like some straight action in there

BDSM still images (M/f)

Artsy nudes for drawing practice, especially male nudes not erect

Fit chicks (inspirational)

Amateur couples where the guy is as hot as the lady

Some of the gay man stuff, particularly D/s or any power imbalance like that.

The fuck? We shower before getting into bed. Makes mornings easier and keeps the bed nicer and I sleep better. They are getting into bed dirty?

None of the ones I worried about. I only wear clothes to bed if I know there is something happening really early (like if I have to take someone to the airport at 4:00) and want to be able to roll out of bed and go. The kids know not to open the door, I have 3 different robes for different temperatures, and husband has shorts ready to jump into in case of emergency - he is more of an early bird than me.

The only thing that really bothers me is dreams. If I am dreaming I’m not sure who is in the bed with me and will panic and put on a shirt before even quite waking up enough to realize I’m with my husband!

What I worried about was the fucking palmetto bugs getting on me (they are outside bugs but get in sometimes in the rainy season and they are my phobia) but the insect apocalypse seems to have reduced their population precipitously, which is terrifying of course but not in the way I had feared. And nothing so urgent and requiring me to be clothed has happened that I would not have time to throw on clothes and flip flops to handle it.

Overall, sleeping naked with my husband is the best.

The heck? You think lesbians aren’t having satisfying sex? That they’d be more satisfied with a man? Or that the only reason someone would leave a relationship is for better sex? I don’t understand this at all.

If this is flipped, I’d be somewhat more accepting of my guy leaving me because he decides he’s gay (or decides to accept it) if it’s a sex related breakup. But I don’t think most break-ups are primarily sex related at all.

Ok - you met on Hinge so you have at least some assurance that they are looking for a physical relationship, yes? But they have not brought it up with you yet? You are into them and do want sex if they are down but like them in other ways so would like to be friends if not?

Maybe just touch them physically a little and see what response you get, if you are having trouble finding words? Hold hands?

I mean if you ask does something exist, yes it does. But submissive men are the most common commodity, submissive ladies, then dom guys then Dommes. So it’s probably not the details they are hung up on, more like they have a lot of choice overall and limited time, attention and desire.

Good luck though!

I’ve had casual years and no problem emotionally with recreational sex, enjoyed it. I can monogamy if my partner stays interested in sex. So one, as long as we can do it every day, and he fits.

Different guy every day? No way, 75% of them would probably suck, and the ones that were good I wouldn’t be able to see again, so no. Variety is less important to me than good sex.

I’d only worry about STD, other than that I do like experienced guys and if it was someone’s passion and they invited me, wanted to give me a good time, why not? No big investment on my part and would be part of something. Wouldn’t seek it out but disease risk my only reason to say no (so in this real world I’d have to say no.)

I agree with that. It’s the opposite of a kink. Not that everything else isn’t sex, it is. But the plainest sex of all, the farthest from kinky, is PIV to finish inside.

BJ, I just want warning. My ex was the first one I’d done that with and his cum so voluminous and foul, I thought all guys tasted like that and would gag when I saw or read about swallowing.
But spitting it out and washing out my mouth worked fine. Nobody since him has had such a foul taste or such a huge load; he was a once a week guy (so didn’t get many blow jobs since I didn’t want to miss my only chance) and also unholy fertile - I got pregnant literally every time we didn’t use something, and he got his allegedly infertile, (40 years old and had never used birth control, never gotten pregnant and had some condition her doctor said made her infertile) pregnant too. So I wonder if literal sperm are disgusting in flavor?

I had a cervix surgery, and the doctor said no sex and no orgasms for six weeks. I think I made it about ten days before the sex dreams started, my body did not agree with the no O thing. I did heal ok though.

After childbirth is the longest for sure, nursing absolutely tanked my libido down past zero. It was a negative sex drive - like to even get to a normal “I might be able to if you want to” took a lot of work - I didn’t want it and was touched out - and so unsettling after the high of pregnancy. So under more extreme circumstances, 1.5 years, four times. And about 7 or 8 years before I started in the first place, I guess.

Inside, absolutely.

Outside is just for porn, I don’t understand wanting that for participating in sex. We evolved to want it in us.

Sapiosexuals are wholesome as fuck, it’s so cool to get turned on by someone’s wit and knowledge.

Not for me, plus no TV in the bedroom, never.

Erotica or porn is good for keeping libido up, in general. I don’t like it as a part of IRL sex.

Not for me, not even a little bit, no no no.

No judgement though.

Yes. Yes they are. With boots.

Not, but I do try to find things that are flattering, and often don’t bra anymore except for work. Jeans & a sweater or jeans and a t-shirt, depending on the season. Sometimes yoga pants, husband finds those sexy, and for some reason also he loves the wide leg pants.