I’d also appreciate an official update of this at some point (I’d be fine with end of Feb for the first update). What I have right now is some napkin math, as someone who sucks at math:

Ko-Fi: About $401.60 at the time of this post ($160 x 2.51)

Librepay - I made an assumption based on remaining weeks in 2025 last time, but idk if that’s actually how it works, so I’m changing it to a full calendar 52 weeks here (if someone has a source on how librepay comes to the per week figure, let me know, because I do know it takes lump sums and divides it to add to a weekly value): 28.66 x 52 = $1490.32

Assuming this is all 100% accurate, puts current total at $1891.92, about 55% of the proposed 2025 budget.

Please do not take this as gospel - I think I’m in the right ballpark but that Librepay per week thing is throwing me for loop. I think Ko Fi is more straight forward and the $160 is not a per week goal thing

Between both, and keeping in mind the Liberapay donors may be doing recurring contributions rather than a lump sum for the year (so may need to stop if something comes up for them), we’re looking at about $1250 give or take for 2025 so far. Nice!

Edit: Did the Liberapay weekly rate x 47 weeks for remaining year, but forgot to add the Ko Fi amount. Dur.

Edit edit: Please feel free to correct me if I’m reading the Ko Fi stuff wrong.

If you want to see what that looks like in the relevant context here (Canada), check out what lemmy.ca is doing (fedecan.ca). Would be curious if there’s non-Canadian instances taking this approach too.

I assume there’s at least some tax benefits/less of a tax liability to TheDude if doing this, but likely requires an additional level of support from folks too for the adminstrative aspects of that.

https://lemmy.ca/post/25251642

Checked it out, it is truly the sh.it. Definitely a nice lookin’ frontend!

[Edit: played the usual period placement game and this time I lost, it was a working link to something. Fixed.]

Reading some deets:
Liberapay - does not take a cut of payments, the service is funded by donations to its own account. However, there are payment processing fees. The fees vary by payment processor, payment methods, countries, and currencies. In the last year, the average fee percentages have been 3.1% for the payments processed by Stripe and 5.1% for the payments processed by Paypal.

Ko-fi - No fee for one-off donations, 5% platform fee to use premium features/become a Ko-Fi contributor (basically, if TheDude and co give Ko-Fi a 5% cut in exchange for premium Ko-Fi features for TheDude and co). 5% on monthly donations, other stuff at same % that I don’t think is relevant here. Normal payment processor fees apply (usually around 3% + $0.30)

Hey, much respect to that.

I just want to take a moment to say your username is amazing.

Damn right!

See, everyone is coming in and talking about different means of measuring instances, the implications for the fediverse and the position of federated services against corporate monoliths like reddit.

But you, verity - you get it.

Man, I just wanted to chant “We’re #5”, now I have people coming at me with facts. :p

(Jokes aside, I appreciate it. There’s nuance to these metrics and what best accounts for ‘size’, particularly for those cases/services where the metrics reflect a little bugginess anyway)

I mean this is the ideal. Most of the time I’m right there with ya. I’m just really attached to this instance - doesn’t mean that others are bad for not being on this (upon review, actually somewhat problematic) list.

Huh, you’re right. In fairness this is cropped from an image shared on the AskLemmy .ml thread, so I’m not 100% sure what’s going on there. Edit: Image is legit. Weird…

Wait, you’re American?! Get outta here, you non-hoser! blocked

Kidding, of course - you’re one of my favourites too. Think you could’ve chosen your words more carefully in the OP exchange - jealousy is a bit of a trigger word, it’s more that the U.S.’ reputation internationally is … sketchy, even before the last periods of particular sketchiness. But some people just expand this to all individual Americans, which isn’t fair - most Americans I’ve met are just normal people just as bewildered as the rest of us are at the state of the world (and the U.S’ place in it).

Edit - story to illustrate my point. There’s a psych band from the U.S. that did a show here not too long ago. Started off by saying “We’re [band name I’ve forgotten] from the U.S.A.”. There was silence, then a few low-key, almost confused sounding 'woo’s. The lead then said “Woo? Hell, I wouldn’t woo at that right now.”

Feel this sentiment isn’t that uncommon.

Oh man, am I ever thankful I seem to be skipping that this time around. cut to this evening, where because I said this the bed will be a pool by morning

Very common side effect, 100% did not expect it on my first go with this. I ended up just keeping a towel next to the bed and drying off as I woke up during the night.

It does go away, thankfully!

…this is embarrassing to say, but I never considered that this could be the case for vagina owners. Without going into too many details (not really my place to share), hasn’t come up with my partner and I re: sex, and I’ve never thought to ask her re: masturbation and sleepiness or lack thereof.

Could always just be an element of personal make up, though. I learned something today! Legit appreciate the added perspective!

Lol, it’s a good tip, but a) sex has to be scheduled in my house these days, and b) masturbation just hasn’t been cutting it as a sleep aid recently.

Under normal/other circumstances, you’re not wrong :)

Man … between your comment and some of the others, I really need to get my sleeping space in order. It’s, uh, not good. Bit untidy (my wife has more clothes than we have space at the moment), my usual comforter has been downstairs waiting to be washed for a while now (using another blanket which has been fine until recently), etc.

I like the idea of doing some light stretching before bed, just to kind of relax the muscles. May try that tonight. Actually been thinking about taking up/taking advantage of a newbie deal for hot yoga in general during the quit - if nothing else, a nice hot space to spend some time during the cold winters :).

Appreciate this! I know T breaks can be particularly challenging if you’re actively using cannabis for pain management, so much respect to you.

Appreciate the comment - all good on the lack of experience with cannabis withdrawls, intent was really just folks talking about sleep habits in general and early morning routines.

It’s a good tip. I have some meditation experience under my belt as well, and it’s usually provides some useful tricks for inducing sleep. Funny, actually - as a young teen I was dating someone who meditated (their Mom was Indian, so coached in a particular outlook) and had trouble sleeping. Described what I did as sort of like meditation, and she asked “But how can you fall asleep”. I said “You know when you’re feeling relaxed and your mind starts to drift? Change your focus to that relaxed feeling, and feel it getting deeper.” Worked like a charm.

Nowadays, I use a looped bathtub filling sound and just focus on the sound of the water. Usually works unless there’s some kind of biochemical nonsense afoot :)

Appreciate it!

Solid advice in general, particularly for people approaching this for the first time.

The only issue I’ve had subbing out CBD is, I usually get it in flower form (legalization in Canada has it’s pros and cons - ready access to CBD flower, even if the choices are a bit limited, is a definite pro). You’re absolutely right - it does help with relaxation without getting ‘high’. But previously, I’ve found myself smoking it a bit longer than I’d like, with an inkling feeling of “You know what’d make this better? Some fucking THC”.

Danged if it didn’t help as a break-glass option for the insomnia in past breaks, though. And I do have some CBD pills I got my wife left over I could break into if all else fails.

Appreciate the comment!

Totally! Definitely only under consideration for the worst of it.

I used to read in bed pretty frequently - need to re-jig my sleeping area a bit to better support the habit (have a standing lamp rather than a reading lamp. Just a me thing I think, but it’s an annoyance to have to stand up and turn the light off when getting dozy, so I usually just try to go to sleep ASAP. Minor inconveniences and laziness getting in the way of doing good stuff I know has worked - kind of what this quit is about, in a way 😆).

Trust me, I am stoked for the shift in sleep quality. One of my favourite bits of stopping, it’s just the wait to that point that’s the killer. Appreciate the well wishes!