Seriously what’s the psychology behind men who enjoy having women dominate and humiliate. What cause them to enjoy having their woman step on them, spit in their mouth, put them on a leash and locked thier dick in a chasity cage?
Way over generalization below but some examples.
Neurodivergent - Explore other gender identities (feminization).
Prostate orgasms - New ways to cum (Pegging, bi, bi-cuckold).
Dealing with trauma (taking control) - Cheating (cuckold), smaller gentiles (chastity), cheating (cuckold), forced acts (bdsm).
Persons making decisions all day - Vaca from having to decide (FLR).
Disabilities (partner) - Let her take control.
Porn addicts thinking its easy sex - Mommy Dom, Findom.
i reckon they think it’s hot
Femdom does not need to include humiliation or degradation. As a more submissive guy I enjoy femdom as I dont like to be the one in control, and thats about it. I dont enjoy humiliation or degradation particilarly and if my partner wouldnt respect my boundaries I wouldnt enjoy it.
As for why people have those kinks, well, why does anyone have kinks or fetishes? Its just what turns them on. If you enjoy being humiliated or being degraded by your partner in the bedroom, why not? And on the note of pain play some people enjoy a little playful pain and others dont.
Also to note, femdom in porn is usually pretty extreme. Finding anything without degradation, humiliation or CBT is probably harder than vice versa.